Wedding days are often
considered the most important day of many peoples lives.
For this reason alone, throughout the past and into modern
day, numerous customs and superstitions have developed
around the wedding event, in hopes of creating The Perfect
Day!
A very common custom still honored today is in
reference to a time-old saying, Something old, something
new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver
sixpence inside your shoe. So old is this that tracing it
back to its origination is nearly impossible. Some
contribute it to Victorian times, others say it is even
older than that. The old is believed to be the friends and
family attending the wedding. The new is represented by the
couple themselves, as a new union. The borrowed is
something from the families that is to be returned, such as
the bride's wedding dress, or the veil, borrowed from her
own mother. Something blue is often interpreted to
represent the brides virginity, as in the opposite of red,
which throughout time has come to represent a woman of many
men. Modern day brides often wear a bit of blue material
tucked out of sight. The sixpence can be any form of money,
tucked into the bride's shoe, this to bring wealth, both in
monetary means and love, to the union.
The veil and the bridesmaids were originated not
as decorations or to allow your friends to share in your
happy day, but to help confuse the evil spirits that were
believed to be lurking about on this holy day. The veil, by
hiding the face, particularly the eyes, confused the evil
spirits. Bridesmaids would surround the bride, thus
confusing the evil spirits as to who was the actual bride.
In a similar belief, the best man is suppose to protect the
groom from the day the wedding is first set in motion,
until he is rightfully married to his impending
bride.
Weddings have historically taken place in higher
numbers during the month of June than any other month of
the year. This ties into the old belief that it was lucky
to be married on the day of the full moon. A wedding on the
June day of a full moon was considered to be the most
prosperous and long lasting union of all. These go together
with the belief that a wedding on a bright, sunny day,
which June is well known for, foretold good luck for the
bride and groom, compared to being married on a rainy day,
which foretold bad luck and a short marriage.
The world over, people throw rice at weddings.
Why? It shows that the guests wish fertility, prosperity,
and long lasting happiness for the newly married
couple.
Colors have long played a part in the planning of
weddings. While many believe that the white of the wedding
dress signified that the bride is a virgin, this is not
actually true in all societies. An old saying sums up the
colors in a wedding very well:
Marry in white, you will do all right
Marry in blue, your man will be true
Marry in brown, you will live in town
Marry in green, you should be ashamed to be
seen
Marry in red, wish yourself dead
Marry in black, better turn back
Marry in yellow, not marrying the right
fellow
Marry in gray, sadness will come your
way
The day of the week that the wedding is to take
place is also steeped in custom, hence the
saying:
Marry on Monday for wealth,
Tuesday for health,
Wednesday the very best day of all,
Thursday you will soon be counting your
losses,
Friday your crosses,
and if married on Saturday, you will have no luck
at all!
One tradition that has been around so long is
whether or not it is good luck for the bride to make her
own wedding dress. Some people believe it is lucky, others
feel it is very unlucky for the bride to even help with the
making of the dress.
Throwing of the bride’s bouquet is good luck for
the bride, and foretells the next of her friends to be
married. Whoever catches the bouquet should take a small
sliver of the wedding cake home with her and place it
beneath her pillow just as she goes to sleep that night.
She will dream of her future husband on that single
night.
Many superstitions also exist for right after the
wedding to start the marriage off right. The new couple
should borrow a coffeepot for the first three months, then
purchase one together. A new broom and frying pan is needed
to start the couple off on a road to happiness, never start
off a marriage with these two items old, or already used.
The bride should cook her new husband and herself their
first meal; it should not be eaten at a restaurant or an
in-laws house. Never sell the wedding dress. It can be
borrowed out, or even given away, but never let money be
received for the dress or the marriage will come to a quick
end. Keep in mind these are all just customs and
superstitions. Marriage is a union between two people who
love each other! (But it never hurts to add a little luck
in whatever way you can!)